“We got it all. At this point you are free of cancer.”
These are words of relief and ecstasy–both to people who have had a diagnosis of cancer and to their families. But the ecstasy often turns to nagging worries as we face the reality of frequent check-ups and heightened awareness of old aches and pains. The reality is, these words are followed by “seasons of survival.”
The first “season of survival” is the acute survival season. It is the time that follows the diagnosis of cancer. This is often a time of disbelief and acute anxiety. During this time we gather information about cancer and its treatment. We make important decisions about treatment options. We inform our extended family and friends. We gather all the energy and resources we can to fight against cancer. And then we undertake the fight by going through treatment.
The next season is the season of extended survival. This is the time following our treatment course. It is a time of relief and fatigue. And it is a time when we experience a mixture of hope and renewed fears about the possibility of a recurrence. During this time our trips to the doctor’s office are still quite frequent. And each visit brings us face to face once again with our worst fears.
The third season is the permanent survival season. This is the time of prolonged remission or cure. It is a time we hope will take us into old age. During this season we are free of cancer, but the reality of the diagnosis remains a part of our self understanding. Cancer has changed us deeply. It has left a lasting impression.
May your seasons of survival be times of discovering new friends, new inner strength, and a deeper experience of God’s love for you.
There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity
under heaven,
a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-4
Questions for Discussion – Session 1
Think about the various seasons you have experienced with cancer. Share some specific experiences from the various seasons you have been through.
In the acute survival season.
In the extended survival season.
In the permanent survival season.
Questions for Discussion – Session 2
Think about the various seasons you have experienced with cancer. Share some specific needs you experienced during the various seasons you have been through.
In the acute survival season.
In the extended survival season.
In the permanent survival season.
